Assembly Speaker - 7 October
Joe - Amy Winehouse Foundation
This Monday we had a more unusual assembly. We met Joe, who works at the Amy Winehouse Foundation, a wellbeing charity that's been around since 2011 with the maxim ‘In Amy’s memory, we work to inspire children and young people to build their self esteem and resilience, so that they can flourish.’ In this assembly, we weren’t given the usual runthrough of our speaker’s academic career and professions before they got to where they are now, instead Joe performed his job in front of us, which meant giving the intensely personal story of his life and his history of alcohol and drug addiction, and eventually his sobriety. His role in his job is to engage young people and open them up to ultimately empower them to think about their choices and make the best of their lives. He shared that he has spoken to roughly 100k young people over the past few years, our hall of Camden sixth formers adding to this number..
Joe began his talk through interacting with his audience, getting everyone to think of the highest number of followers or viewers they had ever got on social media, then asking us to stand up and then sit down once he called out our highest number. This went on until the final few people standing were asked to share their highest number of viewers/likes/followers they’d ever had on their socials, the highest being 3.2 million (which was perhaps a joke).
After some clapping and gasping, Joe proposed a situation to us where we all had 3.2 million followers on a social media platform. He made us imagine us spending hours taking and mulling over a selfie to eventually post on this platform. He then said, ‘And then imagine if you post this picture, and it only gets three likes! Out of the 3.2 million people that follow you! Only three!’ and then ‘How do you think you’d feel after that?’. The key question he then asked was ‘Do you care what others think of you?’ People were slightly more hesitant to raise their hands to answer ‘yes’ to this question, some looking around to their friends to see if their arms were raised before putting up their own. This was something Joe commented on specifically, saying something like ‘In looking around to see if your mates’ hands are raised you prove further that you care what others think of you!’
By now, Joe had engaged his sixth form audience, and even made them acknowledge that we are all a little vulnerable. He then turned his talk onto himself. He spoke of how deeply he cared what others thought of him when he was young and how his insecurities were underpinned by fear, fear of not being good or popular or clever or brave enough. He went on to share intimate anecdote after anecdote about his parents and his school life to further paint an image of the insecurities and low self esteem he suffered from primary school days up to his early twenties. One anecdote he shared was how he punched a boy in primary school to alter what others thought of him, and then got suspended. When he walked back into the classroom after his week-long suspension, everyone turned to look at him (or at least he thought everyone did), and he spoke of the wave of crippling self-consciousness he felt at that moment. I think it is fair to speak for the audience in terms of the fact that we all related in some way to the feelings he described.
He went on to speak about his secondary school years and told us about his first interactions with alcohol and weed at 14, which were only done in the first place to extinguish his fear of missing out. He told us that drinking and smoking made him feel suddenly better about himself, turning him into the version of himself that he wanted to be. He felt so great when he drank and smoked that his habits got more and more excessive, however, and by 16 he was even dealing, something he admitted a younger version of himself would never believe himself to do. Joe never took on the cliche ‘don’t do drugs’ assembly tone with us, and he even mocked the ‘don’t do this, or you’ll die’ he was told repetitively in a drug assembly when he was at school. He spoke of how people no longer wanted to be around him like they used to, his addictions got in the way of and ruined his relationships. Joe described his experiences to such a detailed and personal degree that his storytelling was stripped of the ‘I know better’ attitude; he never adopted the tone of a telling off or lecture, which I believe made his story all the more moving and - speaking for myself and friends I spoke with afterwards - impactful. One of his final anecdotes was the story of when he went to Mexico with some of his closest friends at 19, which ended with him leaving the city in order to get drugs in secret and him doing them alone in his hotel room once his friends had left him in anger.
Towards the end of Joe’s talk, he tells us about the man who inspired him to kick his addictions in his early 20s, a sober friend of a friend who offered to help him in gaining his own sobriety. This friend eventually took Joe to an alcoholic's anonymous meeting, in which he was surprised by the variety of people's stories, with some having only been sober for 20 days and others for 20 years. He spoke of how gaining his own sobriety wasn’t easy. There were relapses upon relapses, but by the time he spoke to us on Monday, he shared that he had been sober for 12 years.
He then told us of his life now, speaking of his fiance and the story of their engagement and the wedding of his sister and his love for his nieces and nephews and all the fulfilling and precious relationships he had now. He kept up the same level of detail and intricacy in sharing how his life is now, and how much stronger he feels.
Joe has worked for the Amy Winehouse Foundation for many years and outlined some of the work they do with young people with drug and alcohol addiction, such as offering intensive and specialist support, in a safe and caring space, and many other bespoke programmes.
Overall, it was a deeply interesting and engaging and emotive assembly and again, speaking for the Camden sixth form, there was a shared feeling of gratitude for Joe and his sharing of his story.
Nancy
Senior Prefect